New mothers get a lot of advice from total strangers. They will walk up to you and give you their opinions on how to get rid of that cradle cap. Your mother-in-law will look at you with disapproving looks and tell you that she had your husband sleeping through the night when he was only 2 weeks old. Your neighbor will have an amusing anecdote about how a dab of Jack Daniels absolutely cured her kids’ teething issues.
Don’t stress though, It won’t last forever. There are days that I’m sure when you would welcome some good advice. But how do you choose from the good advice from the, well, crap? It’s not easy, let me tell you. Here are a couple of good places to go when you’re in need of help.
First of all, before you take advice from anyone, consider what kind of mother you think they are, or were. If your friend is the best mother you know, and she has more experience than you, then her advice is probably going to be more helpful. But, if your neighbor’s kids grew up to be alcoholics, her advice about the Jack Daniels on the gums might be circumspect. You see where I’m going with this. The advice is only good if you really do feel comfortable using the technique on your baby. Every baby is different, and so is every Mother, so the advice is not one size fits all.
In addition to a Mom whom you trust, your doctor is a good person to ask for advice. When I was a first-time mother, I called my doctors’ office three times a week for some sort of help, and they never once acted like I was a pain in the neck, even though I’m very certain that I must have been. They can help you with all different types of questions, and they can help reassure you that everything is alright, which, sometimes is what you need to hear.
Another good source of advice is baby care books, websites, and blogs. The most frequent questions are answered in these formats, plus they are available whenever you need them.
Finally, trust your instincts. Even if you’re a first time Mom, you will probably know what‘s best for your baby, because you know your baby best. A little advice doesn’t hurt anybody, but a little faith in yourself works wonders, too.